This Weekends Gold Member Seminar will be on Top Ten Anchoring Blunders and How to Recover From Them!
Let me give you a little example. I had a guy write me the other day who is interested in a woman. He wants to anchor her to be attracted to him.
His biggest mistake….He wants to anchor the state of LUST and attach it to himself.
Why is this a mistake? Using an over-amplified and out of context state will usually get rejected even if it can be elicited successfully.
First, how do you elicit LUST with someone who you have just met and make it part of an ongoing conversation? Imagine this. You are just meeting someone and they look at you and ask ” What is it like when you feel LUST? “. The next thing you will see is the other person running out the door while changing their phone number…it is creepy.
Second problem, let’s imagine somehow you work lust into the conversation and anchor it. For most people having that feeling about someone you just met is outside of their range of normal emotions. This will raise all kinds of alarms and generate a bad feeling.
Third problem…how and when are you going to use that state? It is very specific and not the kind of thing that you would use over dinner.
Most guys think that lust is a primary motivator state, (I will be covering that concept in the seminar). They think that using this overpowering state will make them attractive and irresistible. The opposite is true.
What do you anchor? Well to find that out you need to be a Gold Member OR sign up for the one time seminar price. I will be announcing more about that tomorrow.
Stay Tuned 🙂
Tom and Kim
