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It happens all to easily.
You get an idea of what you want to achieve. You make a plan to get it. You are excited and highly motivated. Then you get it all together and get started.
This is the point that most people get to pretty easily. What happens after this is the difference between success and failure. It is the point where life can make massive change or follow the familiar. It is the point where all ideas thrive or die.
What happens here is so simple that it will be hard to believe.
You just lose focus. Staying focused on an idea or plan is essential to any success no matter what it is. KNOWING WHERE to focus can save you a ton of time and effort.
I have been guilty of this myself. Those who are successful don’t become that way by being the people who work the hardest. The get there because they know where to apply their focus and energy. The put their focus and energy in the places that give the most return. They KNOW what those places are.
I have worked my butt off and gotten no return on things because they were activities and strategies that were never going to return my investment of time but they felt important to me at the time. I used to spend 4 hours a day writing emails to groups and getting into arguments about what what we do works. It was a waste of time but I felt like it was important. Then I met some folks who worked differently. The thought differently and they had amazing results. What I applied was a method of information gathering know as modeling. When you model someone there are 3 main bits of information you need to gather.
1. What are the beliefs, habits and mindset of the person who is doing what you want to do?
2. What are your beliefs habits and mindset about the thing you want to be able to do?
3. Have a method of changing your beliefs habits and mindsets to match the ones of the person who is succeeding.
Then you can have a similar focus to the person that is succeeding.
If you are shy how to those who are not shy see the world?
If you are poor how do those who are not poor see the world?
If you can’t get a date how do those who can find someone feel about it?
No matter what it is that you want to do, there is someone already doing it!
I hear it time and time again. Well Tom the seminar was great but when I went home I forgot about anchoring. I did not think about rapport. That is because it is too easy to do what you have always done. Then ere is the “ I will do it as long as it fits into what I already think is important”.
Then there are those who go home and have great lives because they actually use these skills. They understand how much fun it can be. They take the step that the others never take!
Sometimes after a year or so they get it. They finally listen. They get to the point that they can be lead into success. They finally do what I told them to do a year ago. They become……teachable.
Next April we are going to be doing 3 seminars in the UK. Those who are teachable will have amazing results. Those who think they are different or special because of what problems they have will not.
I have a method of learning things. It is quite simple. I pretend I know nothing. I forget the skills I already have and allow myself to have the full experience of what it being taught. Only then can I evaluate the value of what is being offered. Only then can I see it without the blurred focus of my expectations. Most times I learn some great new stuff.
Your focus will lead you success or failure.
Those who are already successful know where to focus.
Our desire is for you to have an amazing life. Most times that will begin with the first step into something unfamiliar.
So we come to another year’s end and it is time to evaluate where your focus has been over the last year. I find this funny because again it is a matter of focus. There is a difference between what those who are happy and successful focus on and what those who are depressed and unsuccessful focus on. It is amazing. Just this one little change in how you evaluate your life can change everything.
What is it Tom?!
Here is it one little tip that will change your life.
First…here is how those who do not succeed focus. They make a list of everything they did not get done or screwed up. Then they feel bad. Then they take that list, with those bad feelings, and turn them into New Years Resolutions!
Sound familiar?
OK now here is what I have learned from those who just keep making their lives better. Make a list of all the fun things you did last year. Then a list of all the stuff you achieved. Then what you learned from those experiences. Then make a list of the stuff that you did not do so well at. Then a list of what you learned from that.
Now look only at the list of the things you learned over the last year!
It is just that simple. Now with that list of things you learned think about what you want to do next year.
This is a simple mind trick that allows you to think about things in a different way.
Give it a try and let me know your results
Have fun
Tom
