I hear it all the time. You are just not good enough. Your stuff is not good enough. Your house, car, clothes, haircut, deodorant, education, TV, computer, phone, and so on forever.
Each day we are bombarded with messages that we are not good enough AND they, whoever they are, can make us good enough.
Now it has even gotten more extreme. Now you aren’t happy enough. No problem…. They have a pill for that too! It is a mind numbing reality that we need to be different than we are in order to be happy.
When you think about this economy….how many people would now still have houses if they did not fall for the overwhelming desire to have bigger houses? Their houses were fine but obviously bigger houses would make them happier. A 2 car garage was good but a 3 car garage is better. Oh yeah.. . the countertops must be granite. If you have that house of course you need a new car. Then new clothes. Then to belong to a club you can’t really afford. Then you will be happy, right? Then you will be accepted, right? Then you will be good enough, right? Hey all you had to do was spend every cent you had and borrow against your appreciating house and tap out your credit cards.
Why did people fall for it?
The reason is simple. We are presented with a fantasy lifestyle every single day. We watch it on TV. We hear about it on the radio and we read about it on every billboard we pass while we drive. We WANT IT because we are insecure. We don’t believe in ourselves anymore. We reach out for someone else to tell us what we should think and feel.
What should we be doing instead?
Lets say you’re stuck on a deserted island. What do you think is a better idea?:
-Make a list if all the stuff you don’t have
-Make a list of all the stuff you do have
Making a list if what you don’t have gets you nothing.
If you sat down and spent 5 minutes making a list of the resources you do have then you would know what you ARE able to do. Then you could grow your abilities and resources into being able to do more…if you chose to.
Let me explain. The habit of looking at what you don’t have becomes a way that you look at everything. So whenever you try to accomplish something you tend to look for what you are missing instead of what you have. Then you go out and try to learn what you are missing in hopes that you will then be capable of doing what you want. That turns into an endless cycle of trying to fill in the gaps of what you do not have or know. No matter how much you educate yourself or how much you have, there seems to be one more small crack to be filled.
We have put a lot of thought into this over the last few years. I received an email a few days ago from someone considering coming to our next seminar. He is a self-described seminar junkie. Over the past ten years he has gone to seminars gathering skills but….. his life is not “happening”. Here is the quote that got me:
“In a nutshell, I am insanely talented, and just not living up to my full potential, and I don’t know why I am not a massive success yet? I know it’s coming, but it’s like I’m trying to delay the inevitable (is that a new challenge for you & Kim?)”
The answer is simple. Rather than adapt the skills to fit who he is, people kept trying to teach him how to be somebody else who could then use what he was learning. He was asking what was different about what we were going to teach. The answer was simple. We are going to teach each individual how to adapt the skills we teach to who they already are. Once they can use them from there, they can grow into the person they desire to be.
This is a ground breaking concept in the field we are in. Sorry no fire walks to change your beliefs. No sweat lodges to purify your soul. No endless lectures about making you into a super human. We are going to work with what you naturally have and BUILD on it. Then you will grow naturally from there.
When you shift your focus in that area then what will shift next? Maybe the next time someone tells you that you are not good enough you can tell them to kiss your butt. Maybe the next time you feel like you need a car just because it parks itself you will stop and realize it is a toy and not a definition of who you are.
This is a life transforming concept that can fill the gaps in what you think you don’t have. It allows you to believe you are good enough and let’s you know that you do have choices. You can do things now with what you have. If you are curious about how you can change your life then follow this link: Total Life Transformation Seminar
While you consider that here are some easy tips to play with:
Think of something you want to do that you have been putting off.
Make a list of the things you know that would help you do it.
Make a list of people who could help you.
Then look at the thing you want to do.
Does it seem more possible to do?
Have fun
Tom and Kim
