If these don’t excite you….you might want to check your pulse!

“I am new to the group and am struggling a bit to understand the language and essential skills. Could you tell me more about what you do and where I would use it?”

Yes that is an email I received a few days ago. At first I let it go but as with most things I started thinking about it day later 🙂

One of the weirdest conversations I have is when someone asks me what I do for a living. I could be at a party or at the mall or even just having dinner somewhere. Personally I don’t like too many people knowing what I do. When I do I get cornered and grilled about how they could improve or what I can teach them in the next 5 minutes.

I have a pretty good life and it is all because of these skills. I honestly have the life that other people dream about. My friends are insanely jealous. They are stuck in the daily grind. Up at 6 am only to drag themselves to their car for a 45 minute drive, is traffic is light, into work. Then they work until 5 or 6 only to drag themselves back into their car for another 45 minute slow speed race home. They collapse on their couch. Then when the weekend finally gets there…they have to do all the stuff they did not have time to do all week Then they start all over again on Monday!

My life is quite different. I can work from anywhere. I get up and listen to the traffic report from my back porch while having my morning coffee. I work out then commute to my office  that is ten feet away and work a few hours. Then I do what I want. Later in the day I do a few more hours work. If I want to go somewhere or do something I just do it. For instance today I am going to get my ski boat and jet ski ready to put into the water. Later this summer I will use them in the middle of the day while my friends are stuck in some cubical having fluorescent lights sucking the life out of them.

My problem is finding other people to have fun with.  My friends are all busy chasing the dream while I am living it! Here is the funny part. I try to show them how they can live the way I did BUT THEY JUST DON’T LISTEN! They are so stuck in what they have been told is the IDEAL life that they can’t get their head around it.

I began to think about it. I live the lifestyle of someone who has MILLIONS of dollars on the bank. There are people out there who spend 40 years doing the daily grind to save up enough money to “retire’ on. Then they are too old to really enjoy it!

Look…you can live this way to. How? Use the skills that we teach in your everyday life.

So I thought that maybe it was about time to put directly into words what we really do on our site and in our products. I think this article puts everything in context. For those who already think they know, it might remind them of a few things. For those who are new here it might open your eyes to what is possible in your life. No matter what experience you have with us, take a few minutes and read this.

The essential skills we teach are the basic building blocks for persuasion, influence and the personal change needed to use them for sales, leadership, interviews, meeting people and more. These skills help you go farther. Go faster. Use LESS effort while doing so. They move you beyond an ordinary life and into ….my kind of life.

These are to be used in combination with each other not as separate steps or skills:

Calibration- the ability to notice the shifts in attitude, state and
acceptance

Vocal influence- How to use you voice and words to move people. This is
great for any sales, leadership or persuasion context.

Rapport– Connecting and influencing without saying a word. Really feeling
the other person. Read this page
https://www.essential-skills.com/3dmind/?page_id=385

Anchoring- The elicitation of states to create a push button control of
those states. Then using the control at the right time for the most impact.

3D Mind- For making the personal changes that allow you to use the skills in
real world situations. Also for any phobia, fear or social anxiety. The 3D
Mind is the most versatile personal change model ever invented. It is also
the easiest to understand and use.
Read https://www.essential-skills.com/3dmind/?page_id=394

We also offer the Gold Members Area. For only 20 dollars a month we have a
member area that has a monthly live video seminar to teach and apply these
skills over a wide variety of subjects. That is the best product we have and
I highly recommend it. If your life is not worth 20 bucks a month then you
should stop reading any further.

To get these skills it is going to require some investment from you. Your
time. Your money. You OPEN MIND. If you have those then you are on your way
to a life you only dream about. That is not given away. That is invested in
with your action and effort.

The next move is yours. You can dally around hoping that someone will write
an amazing article telling you how to do all these things or you can take
action yourself.

About us….Kim and I wasted many years chasing the magic pill. We tried
hypnosis, NLP, new age stuff, will power, force and just plain hard work to
get the outcomes we wanted. The truth is the 90% of all of it was crap. What
was not crap simply did work in the real world one bit.

So we started all over and rebuilt everything from scratch. No one teaches
building rapport the way we do. No one teaches anchoring the way we do. No one
teaches vocal influence the way we do. No one teaches personal change the
way we do.

Most people you will find out there are simply parroting what someone else
told them. The have no real idea IF what they are saying/selling really
works at all. They have a great sounding theory with crap results. This
jades some people to the point that they give up.

I can give many examples. One of the best is Shawn. When he came to our
seminar in NY he had already spent thousands of dollars trying to fix one
simple problem. He had piles of products and had gone to many seminars. I am
not sure of the exact number but he reads here so he can correct me. All he
wanted to do was stop puling out his facial hair. The technical name is
Trichotillomania. So he came to our 3 day 3D mind seminar in NY several
years ago.

At the end of the seminar he came up to me and thanked us. He said, ” If
this did not work I was going to give up”. I am glad he waited until the end
of the seminar to tell me that!

The next time I saw him he said, “Notice anything different?” Of course I
did!…not really. I had forgotten. He had a beard and sideburns. He was
ecstatic.

Then there is Rick. After years of study and thousands of dollars he was
told that the reason he was not getting results was that it was all his
fault. The teacher blamed the student and offered no help at all. His
success story is moving. Watch it here in his own words.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tfQXYWOo-hM

So many stories to tell but in short, James had a phobia of elevators. Look
at his video here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7PrgOjEm_oA

Norm had tripled him income. Doc had cured his daughter of PTSD from seeing
the plane hit the pentagon on 9/11 while posted there….in 20 minutes!
Chris met the girl of his dreams and married her.

Kieran got a job offer in a hotel lobby during a seminar where all he did
was anchor the qualifications to a piece of chocolate. What his video here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J67ykNNelt8 He has a bit of an accent but you
can see his excitement.

Rick had a disease. The anxiety of having this disease kept him from doing
anything about it. When that was taken away he was finally able to find a
way to take care of himself without using the toxic drugs. He was also able
to move through the world without the fear of the disease. Watch his video
success story here. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVFj-nNbnXs

Then there is Claire. 41 year phobia of bridges vanished in ONE DAY by
watching one video tape. Her words:

“The history of my phobia is that I’m 44 now, and my phobia of heights began
when I was about 3 yrs old, my FIRST conscious memory is of the event that
created the phobia. Everything that came after that – which is EVERYTHING I
can remember – has been filtered through the beliefs that caused the phobia.
At 3 yrs old I was (I’m told) having screaming panic attacks if I had to
step off a road side curb.

On the day the videos arrived which was just about 3 months ago, I watched
the first one. The following day (!) I crossed back and forth over a canal
using three glass sided minimalist/modern style bridges. That would have
been totally beyond me the day before.”

I would post the whole thing but you get my point. If you want to read her
entire story it is in message:

http://tech.groups.yahoo.com/group/essential-skills/message/28347

There are thousands more stories like this.

All I can say that if these examples don’t excite you….you might want to
check your pulse!

I already know your next question. ” Where do I start?“. Let me go ahead and
answer that. First pick out one of the skills you want to learn or a group
you want to learn. You are going to have to buy a DVD or 2. Then learn and
practice the skills. If you run into problems about believing in yourself or
any other emotional block on using the skills, get the 3D Mind. You don’t
have to buy everything at once. I prefer you don’t. It will be too much and
too overwhelming.

Now the rest is up to you. Let me offer one more suggestion. I just posted a
video on our blog. If you have not see it yet it is about being treated like
you are special and how once you get used to that how weird it is to realize
that everyone else gets treated the other way. Here is the link:
https://www.essential-skills.com/3dmind/?p=711

Let me add one more thing. When you get our products they ALL come with a
100% money back guarantee. We also are always here to answer questions so
you are not hung out there alone with a DVD and no one to take care of you
afterward.

If you need any other convincing here are a few other reviews of our work.
Do me a huge favor and read them. I have a follow up at the end. I have a
few more things to say:

“I have always enjoyed working with Tom and Kim because they are
professionals on business side of life and a caring, energetic man of
integrity on the other. They teaches skill that every human being on the
planet needs … to help them move more powerfully in the market place. Seek
him out, learn from him and “get it”. Their brand of magic is revealed and
experienced only to those who have the humility and wisdom to receive it and
see it at the energetic level of truth. They are the real deal.

Paul D’Souza”

“Tom has been instrumental in teaching me skills that has allowed me to
close multi-million dollar highly complex deals. His techniques in
“anchoring an emotion” and being able “to flex time” has been tools that
I’ve used for 5+ years.

I would highly recommend Tom’s (Essential-Skill) training not just for sales
but for anyone who needs to be more in control of meeting, situations and
personal interactions.

Tom is a highly sought after professional who delivers results and is
extremely successful in teaching them.

Albert Morales
Major Account Manager – NetIQ”

Tom’s and Kim’s Essential Skills seminars are excellent.

As a presenter, Tom captures the attention of everyone in the room and keeps
it until he’s finished. Tom’s content is well researched, planned and very
meaty. The skills they teach are immediately applicable and make a definite
positive impact on whatever you are doing. Plus, you remember things for
years to come and can keep applying the skills over and over.

Tom is a very personable individual, takes an interest in people he comes in
contact with, and has a passion for giving those who ask, tools to enrich
and better their lives. Anything that Tom recommends, I immediately take a
look at.

I would recommend Tom to anyone seeking to improve their interpersonal
skills and their business or personal life.

Ed Dry”

“”Tom Vizzini and Kim Mcfarland are THE leaders in creation of real world
tested personal change. If you want to begin the process of awaking from
your auto pilot sleep and want to break out of your limiting beliefs and old
patterns of behavior give 3-D Mind a try. It works. I can personally attest
to it’s effectiveness EVEN if you find you find you resist change. Their
trainings and change technologies are real world, creative, authentic,
fairly priced and far surpass anything out there in regards to real world
effectiveness and “bang for your buck”. My quality of life has increased
exponentially due to Tom’s and Kim’s teaching. On top of all this he is
highly approachable and friendly and is really easy to work with. Thank you
Tom and Kim!! You Rock!!

Rick”

BTW Rick is the guy who had the disease….

“It’s kind of hard to know where to begin when talking about Tom and Kim as they
cannot easily be placed in any particular category. They are two-of-a-kind.

They Have the ability to cut through the nonsense surrounding any particular
issue. They developed some devastatingly effective skills, but more than
that, They have the ability to teach and convey these to others in a way that
makes sense and that can be used easily.

Almost all of the “Top Attributes” listed in this recommendation form can be
applied to them.”

Without wanting to be too schmaltzy, he’s the kind of guy that you’re glad
that you know: not just because he is smart, generous and has great personal
integrity, but also because he will tell you the truth, when you need to
hear it, whether you like it or not.

I’m glad to know him and I have no hesitation in recommending him whole
heartedly.

Roger Lear”

One of two things are going to happen at this point. You are going to look
at all of this and still sit on your butt or you are going to take action
and get your life moving. Any other decision is just doing the same old
crap that brought you here. Any excuse you make not to take action is just
another one of the stories you tell yourself to stay where you are.

This is not hard sell…This is hard FACT.

The rest is up to you.

Tom and Kim