True Power
by Tom VIzzini


Some of the things that have noticed lately have brought me to the point of
asking what power truly is.

Is power truly the ability to enforce your will on another person?  Is power
being in control at all times?  Is power the ability to manipulate others?
Is power control?

I'm not going to get into a bunch of theory as to why I think some people
find it necessary to dominate all situations. 

When I came up with smurfing I thought of it as a way of gently moving
someone out of your way.  The responses I got about smurfing was more about
controlling other people rather than getting what you want.  I teach
smurfing and rapport at the same time.  I'm amazed at how many people are
more interested in pushing people away rather than attracting people.

The does this give them a sense of power?

I can do some pretty amazing things.  There was a time when being able to do
these things made me feel a little strange.  Knowing that I have the ability
to influence others and change their lives with a few simple words might be
perceived as powerful.  I never really thought of it that way.  It did make
me feel more responsible about the things that I did and what I said.

I've met many people have learned this technology that suddenly think that
they have to control everything they say and everyone around them.  That is
quite a task for anyone.

In my mind true power comes from knowing that you do not always have to be
in control.  You do not always have to be the leader. Sometimes, maybe most
of the time, power is being secure enough to allow others to feel powerful
without feeling threatened.

I guess I have seen too many people use the bulldozer method to feel
powerful.  In other words, the more people you can push around the more
powerful you are.  I have never seen this work in the long-term.

The most important power in the world that I can think of is the ability to
leave people feeling better than they did when you arrived.  That is a gift
that is true magic.  That is the basis of almost everything that Kim and I
teach.


Originally Posted: Nov 21, 2008 at 6:07 AM
Last Updated: Nov 21, 2008 at 6:07 AM





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